E - Evading
Evading is a maladjusted coping mechanism which forms as holing up, procrastinating and apparent irresponsible behavior. People may think that a person who is Evasive is lazy . A better description, however, is that the person is anxious. This means that the person who relies on Evading is dealing with emotionally threatening possibilities. Evading may be driven by a Failure Schema which suggests that no matter what we do, or how hard we try, we will still fail. Beneath this schema possibly lies a Defectiveness Schema suggesting that there is something innately wrong with us. Evading seriously limits the scope of our functioning. We withdraw from the world too much. There is a distinction between not being attracted to things that donít appeal to your personality and evading. The person who practices evading will avoid things he or she really needs and wants.
Facing what we feel and think without being judgmental initiates a very necessary attitude adjustment that helps chronic Evading. Evading tears at our mental health by making what we dread seem more ominous and worse than it is. Chronic evading is often the cause of feeling chronically overwhelmed. The more we evade the more we thing we have to evade. The cycle needs to be interrupted. The practice of mindfulness and the Radical Acceptance of our emotional experience interrupt the mental processes that drive evasive behavior. Accepting ourselves transforms our world.
Record your answers to the following questions in your JOURNAL:
This Compensatory Mode is active in my life. The evidence that confirms this is as follows:
This Compensation Mode is not active in my life. The evidence that refutes this is as follows: