Over Compensation Questionnaire

Instruction If a statement may have once been true, is possibly true or clearly true for you, place a check next to the Theme’s Code in the left column. You will later have an opportunity to assess whether or not this avoidant theme is active in your life. Remember how important it is to identify your modes of avoidance. These need to be interrupted to undermine our core schema activity.

IO
(1)  I'm often quite concerned about looking good in the eyes of others.
IO
(2)  I rely on impressing people to feel secure with them.
SA
(3) I am dependent on approval and praise to feel good about myself.
SA
(4) I try hard to please the important people in my life.
BI
(5) I have fantasies of being found guiltless from false accusations.
BI
(6) I find myself trying to prove that I'm not a bad person.
RH
(7) I often think to myself, "I'll show them."
RH
(8) I often have fantasies of being heroic or honored.
LF
(9) I makeup stories about myself to impress others.
LF
(10) I will at times present myself falsely.
GO
(11) I know just what to say and how to say it to get over on most people.
GO
(12) I con people.
GB
(13) I can't let go of anger without somehow getting back.
GB
(14) I want to punish people who offend me or my family.
DC
(15) I find it necessary to control others to get my needs met.
DC
(16) I put a lot of emphasis on having order in my life.
RI
(17) I don't like being dependent on anyone.
RI
(18) I have trouble committing to one person.
A
(19) I am obsessed with acquiring security, money and possessions.
A
(20) I feel envious of other people's possessions.
BE
(21) I often think: "if you're not smarter or better than me, you're not entitled to criticize me."
BE
(22) I frustrate important people in my life because I am so self-absorbed.
R
(23) I feel compelled to habitually double check the things I do.
R
(24) I feel compelled to do some things habitually though they may not really be necessary.
BJ
(25) I become critical and judgmental.
BJ
(26) I think a lot about how totally wrong some people are.
BD
(27) I find it necessary to be defiant.
BD
(28) I refuse to conform.
BSE
(29) I sometimes try to behave like someone else.
BSE
(30) I find myself wishing and imagining that I'm someone else.
INP
(31) I have a firm policy: "No one will ever treat me like that again."
INP
(32) I have a firm policy: I’ll never let myself be treated in a ny way that resembles my mother or father.
BO
(33) Being exceptional is a must for me.
BO
(34) Being average is being less than acceptable.
FO
(35) People I care about rely on me to keep things together.
FO
(36) I take care of others rather than caring for myself.
W
(37) I worry to control misfortune.
W
(38) I am preoccupied with negative scenarios.   

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