Questions 23 & 24
R - Ritualizing
A distinction needs to be made between prudent actions that ensure our well-being and habitual actions that aim to sooth our recurrent fears. The person who relies on Ritualizing is attempting to deal with the presence or intrusion of unpleasant or even dreadful thoughts. The ritualized or compulsive activity can include unremitting washing and cleaning, habitual rechecking of appliances or continual checks that you have not lost money or valued items. Ritualizing is a form of worrying that inadvertently validates the fears that drive the behavior. Ritualizing often clusters with perfectionism or Directing and Controlling. In fact Ritualizing is an attempt to control natural processes. In this case, thought processes. People who have endured serious emotional deprivation, domestic disorder or have unwanted sexual urges may be more susceptible to this type of maladjusted coping. Ritualizing can be very debilitating in some instances. The personís range of activities may be seriously limited. Sometimes the compulsions result in an embarrassment.
Ritualizing may be understood as both in overcompensation and an avoidant coping mode. This is because the ritualizing may reach levels where it is clearly involuntary. In these cases we understand that the practitioner is Burying Thoughts.
Getting better always includes interrupting the ritualized behavior and slowly entering and assimilating that which we dread..
Record your answers to the following questions in your JOURNAL:
This Compensatory Mode is active in my life. The evidence that confirms this is as follows:
This Compensation Mode is not active in my life. The evidence that refutes this is as follows: