Phase 7 - The Wisdom of “Letting It Be”
In Mindful Exposure to Well-Being we affirm: “I let go and let be.” We then mindfully direct this relinquishment of control towards our problems and concerns. This activity contradicts the suggestion that without our interventions life fails. In this practice we suspend attempts to solve, correct or worry about our concerns. This is not a policy about dealing with problems; it is a contemplative practice.
We practice being with a problem, trusting that it is subject to the self-regulating and pervasive rule of Nature. During the mindful-exposure we rely on an all-embracing Nature—a Nature that was here before us-- to address our concerns. We deliberately expose our problems to this perspective.
Life does indeed function on its own. Nature tends toward success. When we plant a seed, we let it go and let the rule of nature take care of the rest. So much of Life is beyond our grasp and for the most part we are comfortable with that. Our maladjusted coping modes, however, are prone towards intolerance. They are intolerant of the distress forming from our emotional wounds. They seek to protect us from discomfort, but instead mislead us towards further suffering. The practice of Mindful Exposure to Well-Being fosters the relinquishment of our maladjusted coping modes. We learn to turn our troubles over to a self-regulating principle that is greater than ourselves.
Beliefs have a tendency to be self-fulfilling. Maladjusted schemas are forms of belief and are subject to the generative nature of beliefs. We see patterns of behavior in ourselves and others. These patterns are supported by established beliefs. Maladjusted schemas drive maladjusted coping modes and their behavioral equivalents. We disconnect the schema from their maladjusted coping reactions and interrupt self-defeating patterns of behavior.